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Hi Faecat,  it seems your mother is thinking that your alter is something like a black magic alter where you would practice occult things..

This is why i don't label special places i make in my home as an "altar" .   

I would make something new — just something simple for the Faery to have a place of thier own- and all that has to be is one shelf in your room with a faery cottage,  and pretty things for them to enjoy.   A faery flag is a nice addition and none of that stuff is evil or takes the place of God in your life.    I don't like the word altar, because we don't worship the faerie.  It is just a place set aside in our homes for them to feel welcome.

I think your mother is totally taking the wrong approach –  By her pushing her spiritual views on you– by slamming you over the head with them, she can eventually turn you off to the most important Being that exists– God, Himself.   

Your mother does mean well- however I do not agree with her approach at all- and she  needs to put this matter before Jesus in prayer- and just maybe He might enlighten her in ways she never expected– and she may have a new understanding that your shelf you made in honor of the faery was in no way to take the place of God- but was just something you wanted to do from the love in your heart.     

She doesnt believe in the faery realm, and that's her choice, but she needs to let you make your own choices, or else she will end up pulling you away from God by her demanding way she is handling this.

Faecat,  I know that it hurts that you can't share these things with your mother. Your mother is alot like my father- who to this day I cannot share even things about God with Him, much less the Faerykind and angels.

He doesnt even like to hear me talk to my mother about books I read of people's back to life experiences, where they encountered Jesus Christ–  he intentionally interrupts me to shut me up whenever he is in the room– even if I am not talking with him .   

Your mother loves you, but there are things you just are never going to be able to share with her–some things you can,but other things you will have to wait until the Holy  Spiirt reveals these things to her — probably after her death and she is then more open to learn beyond what she knows now.

For what it's worth —   my faery garden had  some quartz crystals hanging from the pine trees that surround the faery garden. My father angrily pulled the crystals off of the limbs (even though they were not glaringly visible) and called me a gypsy..lol!     We got into an argument over that- because he tossed them out- even though I paid $25.00 for them in a catalog, and they were very pretty too.      grrrrr!!!!

hugs

lisa

Hi Faecat and Lisa,

I am so sorry to hear that your parents are not sympathic to your beliefs.

People get funny about religious beliefs. It makes it really hard when you are a minor and live under your parents roof.

All you can do is to be respectful and don't yell and get into screaming matches because that just upsets everyone and accomplished nothing.

Even if they yell, stay calm and speak in a calm voice and just say that you respect them but that you have a different opinion and that you will just have to agree to disagree.

That may or may not work, but as long as you stay calm, that does help.

If they yell and scream then calmly, and politley say "Please don't yell at me, I am not yelling at you."

Make sure that you are breathing well and remain calm.

The problem is usually that they love you and want what they think is best for you.

A lot of the time parents are right, some times they are wrong. It's really hard when they are wrong or don't respect your right to have something as harmless as crystals in the garden or little decorations for fae but what can you do?

Just love them and respect them and hope they can try to give you some respect to believe differently.

Love to you both and to all who are having this problem. Hugs.

Namaste

Kala

My family is liek those big italian families. We have to scream but afterwards we forgive each other the nect day if not hour. My mom's only open to God like things and anything else is wrong. It's because of disney portraying fae like they do. People think tinker bell and the fae changing seasons but it's not like that at all. They're part of a bigger balance. We are industry the are natural. People don't understand that because they take nature for granted. AHHHHHHHHHH I just want to scream at them!

I always thought there had to be more to life then learing and dieing. Lisa the PM I sent you, the newest one, I left something out. While I was talking to my mom I saw a little white orbshoot across the floor. I looked around and my mom asked what's wrong, I said I saw a fly but I think the fae were trying to send me a message. Like listen to your mother. That's what comes to mind.