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Member | Midnight's Song posts 270 7:33 am June 1, 2010
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Greetings all, I apologise for being away for a long time. I had to catch up on loads of school work these days, but anyway, it's half done, so I want to take my time to express myself emotionally over here (I'm going to rant a lot so look away if you don't like rants, I'm not offended)
Just to tell the backstory before I rant, I knew this boy since mid-9th grade. He's a nice person, I could tell, even if I wasn't close to him until now. One thing I realised is that my infatuation with him went in circles, one part of me telling me he's nice to have in a relationship, but another voice said no, he doesn't share the same musical interest as me and younger and therefore not compatible, so I followed the second voice of rationing and never got close to actually starting to like him more than a friend.
But now I do.
And I didn't want to listen to the rational voice anymore, I just went with my heart. I haven't confessed yet (that would've been too direct and scary.) But I've left him subtle hints that I like him that way. But today, whilst I was talking about how he should come for a party, he told me that he could be free, but he has a "wife" to have that permission granted. After making a few wild guesses on what he meant by "wife" he explains that he is engaged. That…just ruined my perfect afternoon, but I didn't show that look to him but just asked questions and still acted as if I was fine. But I have no idea what my body language was like, probably really jealous.
So that's what it's like. I feel jealous. He told me he isn't sure whether he has a crush on her, but they are arranged to be married anyway. I feel sad at the same time too, seeing he's "taken" in a way…so I feel it's like it's too late, but I can't seem to move on yet. I'd love comforting words please, and advice would be great.
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Member | ta posts 695 9:01 am June 1, 2010
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i would say, if he doesn't show an interest in u, then it's best to let it go and not bother yourself with it.
but then he said he isn't sure whether he has a crush on her, so maybe if he realize that he doesn't love her then maybe you might have a chance. but really, why is he such a big idiot to even engage to someone he doesn't love.
actually he's taken on the physical body, but his heart is still not taken according to what he said. So if u can, u can try to seduce him. 
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Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person, is like expecting a bull not to attack because you are a vegetarian. -Dennis Wholey.
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Member | Midnight's Song posts 270 6:36 pm June 1, 2010
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It wasn't his decision to get engaged, it was his parents :O
I may probably have chance, because we both are showing interest in each other's interests (did that sound right?) and that interest is pretty genuine. It's kind of in the state of not too hot and not too cold either. What should I do from here?
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Member | ta posts 695 7:07 pm June 1, 2010
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i'll just say, go with the wave, let it carry you. continue to talk and narrow down the interest, if possible.
but if you're strong enough, u can ask him how he think of you and what you are to him.
if he say a friend, dont' be discourage, still be there for him. if this one doesn't work out, he's not for you. if he is the one, he will come back.
But if he really have feeling for you, for him to make a move really depend on the type of guy he is. watch out for sign, that is given through words or action from him.
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Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person, is like expecting a bull not to attack because you are a vegetarian. -Dennis Wholey.
The real measure of your wealth is how much you'd be worth if you lost all of your money. -Bernard Meltzer
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| Lisa A.- Grey Eyes Pennsylvania posts 2452 12:04 am June 2, 2010
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Ta gave such excellent advice :-)
And dont' forget- you guys are both young- anything can happen and he is free to change his mind some day. If it is meant, ask that the door open for the both of you–if not now,then in your future. If it is not truly the Highest for you both, ask that the doorclose.
When emotions are stirred, it's hard to think logically about a relationship– but sometimes quick romances fizzle out. Maybe it's better to develop a lasting friendshp with this boy– that can grow deeper into something more later if you are destined to be with him!
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Member | Midnight's Song posts 270 4:57 am June 2, 2010
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The waves are really unpredictable. Oh, I forgot to note, 9th Grade = 2 years of me getting to know him. So it's been a while, but I never got to think about the romance issues properly. I agree, I'd love to develop a lasting friendship than a temporary relationship that will shatter at any time the wave wants it to. Thanks for the advice, both. 
EDIT: I learnt from a friend of mine that there is someone else crushing on me now. I'm in a love-triangle situation, help again, cheers.
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