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Member | zakary posts 513 7:58 pm March 31, 2011
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when it comes to me im about the shyest person there is. I want a girlfriend but i dont know how and one thing that stops me is my parents embarrasing me. but i feel hopless. and i dont want to mess it up. and no matter how many times ive tried i never get a word out. i even tried asking a friend at my school to help me but all i do is keep going away from it. then again fae arn't exactly the most go up to a person and talk to them (talking about my fae self). but can you guys help me.
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Member | SaranelTonight Buzzzz posts 416 8:21 pm March 31, 2011
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There's nothing wrong with being single, at all…
Actually, I'm almost 16- and never had a boyfriend. I just don't have the time, and more important things to worry about, like education.
Maybe you should ask yourself WHY you want a girlfriend so badly.
You should probably become good friends with whoever you like, before you decide you actually want to date them.
And friends will still be your friend, no matter what you believe. And they may even embrace it.
The first way to tell them is by humoring them.
You don't just go up to a person and tell them your life story, do you?
That's the point. Friends are first based on common interests, when you become closer, it turns into more,
and if it's a girl, then it could turn into a relationship.
Don't succumb to peer-pressure, either, into having a girlfriend.
Relationships are based on love…
I hope I made a point here, and made some sense, and something for you to think on…
and I hope I helped!
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Member | JollyRancher36 BC, Canada posts 527 9:40 pm March 31, 2011
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Oh dont worry I've been in the same boat. My first boyfriend I hate to say I didnt even like, and it didnt last very long. I didnt know him at all and I think that was the main problem, I found out too late that he wasnt for me.
So what HannahTonight says is absolutely right, make sure you actually like the person! Focus on making it a friendship before a relationship.
You'll get there. Dont worry!
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Member | Bluefirephoenix posts 891 2:29 pm April 1, 2011
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Just make friends at first Zac the romantic thing happens when the time is right. Girls appreciate a good friend and it's needed for trust to develop and forms the foundation for later relationships. Focus on something you enjoy doing. … when I was in high school I used to show dogs, I was in band, and horses as well as a church youth group. Relationships came from those places when I was focused on enjoying my activities.
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Member | zakary posts 513 2:57 pm April 1, 2011
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Bluefirephoenix said:
Just make friends at first Zac the romantic thing happens when the time is right. Girls appreciate a good friend and it's needed for trust to develop and forms the foundation for later relationships. Focus on something you enjoy doing. … when I was in high school I used to show dogs, I was in band, and horses as well as a church youth group. Relationships came from those places when I was focused on enjoying my activities.
well thats the other problem i have a hard time making friends.
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Member | SaranelTonight Buzzzz posts 416 3:15 pm April 1, 2011
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zakary said:
Bluefirephoenix said:
Just make friends at first Zac the romantic thing happens when the time is right. Girls appreciate a good friend and it's needed for trust to develop and forms the foundation for later relationships. Focus on something you enjoy doing. … when I was in high school I used to show dogs, I was in band, and horses as well as a church youth group. Relationships came from those places when I was focused on enjoying my activities.
well thats the other problem i have a hard time making friends.
Why do you have a hard time making friends?
Ask yourself that first, so that you can solve both problems.
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| Heaven's Divinity posts 937 5:41 pm April 1, 2011
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I never been kissed or had a boyfriend and im 20 :)
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Member | SaranelTonight Buzzzz posts 416 7:13 pm April 1, 2011
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Master_Iris said:
I never been kissed or had a boyfriend and im 20 :)
Me too, and I know many people that are the same… :D
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Member | zakary posts 513 8:31 pm April 1, 2011
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SaranelTonight said:
zakary said:
Bluefirephoenix said:
Just make friends at first Zac the romantic thing happens when the time is right. Girls appreciate a good friend and it's needed for trust to develop and forms the foundation for later relationships. Focus on something you enjoy doing. … when I was in high school I used to show dogs, I was in band, and horses as well as a church youth group. Relationships came from those places when I was focused on enjoying my activities.
well thats the other problem i have a hard time making friends.
Why do you have a hard time making friends?
Ask yourself that first, so that you can solve both problems.
Blue fire i dont know why. it could be two reasons; either a. my childhood i was shy and everyone came to me and i never hung out or did anything and was pretty sheltered, or b. im just so nervous to the point i cant do it, or it could be both. but in all honesty when ever i try to i go into this "lock down mode" where i will walk away or dont talk. i mean once a girl sat at my table(i had other people there) and i litterally did not talk nor did i move. it wasn't till a few weeks after was i able to speak a few words. it was mostly because i started to trust her after "observing her". it may be due to the fact fae aren't as trusting around other people(aqgain talking about myself).
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Member | SaranelTonight Buzzzz posts 416 8:57 pm April 1, 2011
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zakary said:
SaranelTonight said:
zakary said:
Bluefirephoenix said:
Just make friends at first Zac the romantic thing happens when the time is right. Girls appreciate a good friend and it's needed for trust to develop and forms the foundation for later relationships. Focus on something you enjoy doing. … when I was in high school I used to show dogs, I was in band, and horses as well as a church youth group. Relationships came from those places when I was focused on enjoying my activities.
well thats the other problem i have a hard time making friends.
Why do you have a hard time making friends?
Ask yourself that first, so that you can solve both problems.
Blue fire i dont know why. it could be two reasons; either a. my childhood i was shy and everyone came to me and i never hung out or did anything and was pretty sheltered, or b. im just so nervous to the point i cant do it, or it could be both. but in all honesty when ever i try to i go into this "lock down mode" where i will walk away or dont talk. i mean once a girl sat at my table(i had other people there) and i litterally did not talk nor did i move. it wasn't till a few weeks after was i able to speak a few words. it was mostly because i started to trust her after "observing her". it may be due to the fact fae aren't as trusting around other people(aqgain talking about myself).
I'm bit confused, since I asked… but. I'll answer anyways and try to help…
(Btw, What does fae have to do with it?)
And, you just have to think "do it now, DO IT!" in your mind,
so that you don't even have a chance to turn back around
It's all about how you think about it, really.
You must put yourself in that mind-set, and then it will come along
after that naturally.
If you're still in school, try doing Theatre class or something : )
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Member | zakary posts 513 9:59 pm April 1, 2011
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SaranelTonight said:
zakary said:
SaranelTonight said:
zakary said:
Bluefirephoenix said:
Just make friends at first Zac the romantic thing happens when the time is right. Girls appreciate a good friend and it's needed for trust to develop and forms the foundation for later relationships. Focus on something you enjoy doing. … when I was in high school I used to show dogs, I was in band, and horses as well as a church youth group. Relationships came from those places when I was focused on enjoying my activities.
well thats the other problem i have a hard time making friends.
Why do you have a hard time making friends?
Ask yourself that first, so that you can solve both problems.
Blue fire i dont know why. it could be two reasons; either a. my childhood i was shy and everyone came to me and i never hung out or did anything and was pretty sheltered, or b. im just so nervous to the point i cant do it, or it could be both. but in all honesty when ever i try to i go into this "lock down mode" where i will walk away or dont talk. i mean once a girl sat at my table(i had other people there) and i litterally did not talk nor did i move. it wasn't till a few weeks after was i able to speak a few words. it was mostly because i started to trust her after "observing her". it may be due to the fact fae aren't as trusting around other people(aqgain talking about myself).
I'm bit confused, since I asked… but. I'll answer anyways and try to help…
(Btw, What does fae have to do with it?)
And, you just have to think "do it now, DO IT!" in your mind,
so that you don't even have a chance to turn back around
It's all about how you think about it, really.
You must put yourself in that mind-set, and then it will come along
after that naturally.
If you're still in school, try doing Theatre class or something : )
I am part faeSaranelTonight said:
zakary said:
SaranelTonight said:
zakary said:
Bluefirephoenix said:
Just make friends at first Zac the romantic thing happens when the time is right. Girls appreciate a good friend and it's needed for trust to develop and forms the foundation for later relationships. Focus on something you enjoy doing. … when I was in high school I used to show dogs, I was in band, and horses as well as a church youth group. Relationships came from those places when I was focused on enjoying my activities.
well thats the other problem i have a hard time making friends.
Why do you have a hard time making friends?
Ask yourself that first, so that you can solve both problems.
Blue fire i dont know why. it could be two reasons; either a. my childhood i was shy and everyone came to me and i never hung out or did anything and was pretty sheltered, or b. im just so nervous to the point i cant do it, or it could be both. but in all honesty when ever i try to i go into this "lock down mode" where i will walk away or dont talk. i mean once a girl sat at my table(i had other people there) and i litterally did not talk nor did i move. it wasn't till a few weeks after was i able to speak a few words. it was mostly because i started to trust her after "observing her". it may be due to the fact fae aren't as trusting around other people(aqgain talking about myself).
I'm bit confused, since I asked… but. I'll answer anyways and try to help…
(Btw, What does fae have to do with it?)
And, you just have to think "do it now, DO IT!" in your mind,
so that you don't even have a chance to turn back around
It's all about how you think about it, really.
You must put yourself in that mind-set, and then it will come along
after that naturally.
If you're still in school, try doing Theatre class or something : )
I am part fae. i do try to think do it now but it fails. also we have no theater class only a drama thing after school.
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Member | SaranelTonight Buzzzz posts 416 11:32 pm April 1, 2011
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hmm… then dont think, just do. : ) Try not to think aout what you're doing. Just do it. And, don't worry about what everybody else thinks
And you should join the drama club, too!
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Member | ta posts 701 3:11 am April 2, 2011
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zakary said:
when it comes to me im about the shyest person there is. I want a girlfriend but i dont know how and one thing that stops me is my parents embarrasing me. but i feel hopless. and i dont want to mess it up. and no matter how many times ive tried i never get a word out. i even tried asking a friend at my school to help me but all i do is keep going away from it. then again fae arn't exactly the most go up to a person and talk to them (talking about my fae self). but can you guys help me.
Why would you want a girlfriend? Wanting doesn't fit, wanting mean anyone can do; but when you feel it, it's for a certain person. You may want to grow out of your shell of comfortable, because the world out there is harsh like confessing to a girl.
I think there is nothing about you that you should be embarrass about, if your parent were to ever leak it out. As a being, we have done things, made mistakes and all. But there is nothing to be embarrass about it. I think the more you let her know you, allow her to really see if she can accept you as who you are. Seeing that side you think is embarrassing, you can think of it as a test to see if that person really accept you even if you are dork or clumsy.
"then again fae arn't exactly the most go up to a person and talk to them (talking about my fae self).", I think it's not your fae side that effects you the most. Even fae has a vary of personality to them, meaning some can be very out going and center of attention while some prefer to be the shadow. It's just who you are. You need a bit of this and a bit of that to encourage you and strengthen you.
I understand, although I have never experiences it myself. It's hard to confess. I don't know how I'll be if i want to confess to someone, thought i doubt I'll ever.
No body can help you unless you want to help yourself. You must bring yourself out of this, and you are the biggest help of yourself.
Sometimes, if you can't bring yourself to speak, looking should be fine. smile to her. Your actions. Though i got no clue how you can do that.
But really, I think when you find that girl, you don't just want, but its already there; before you even know it, whatever you do is already dedicate to her.
I find it hard making friend too, you are not the only one.
Somehow I just can't talk about peoples' interest, or somehow I just never gone there and never really deepen the bond. I guess i have my own secret reason that even i don't know.
It's alright to make friends your way, whether it takes long or not, you have your own way of making buddies. True buddies come when you take your time. I think true friend are when you never really intend to be friend, but find that things happens and you are brought closer to the point where you can call each other friend. But then there are other possibilities too. Don't amuse that all events of making friends are the same nor you should want it to be the same. Things change to make life more interesting. You are always learning. :)
I can't tell you to not feel nervous, because I do get nervous. Feel all nervous, as much as you want, either way you are determine to confess therefore the nervousness won't be in the way. An idea just pop up, maybe not say, but write. Give it to her directly, and make sure she reads it right there and then (Write "Please read right now" or "Please mentally read this in front of me right now" on your folded paper of confession; call her out; show it to her, but not give it, make sure she reads it and then give it to her. Funny, but may work)
I don't know if this help or answer anything, but this is what i feel I want to say. :)
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Member | B121 posts 70 4:22 am April 2, 2011
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Hmm, if talking in person makes you nervous, them how about getting to know girls from your school for example, through online means? Such as through facebook and etc.
I myself used to be very shy in person, and I still do HATE meeting new people because it feels hopelessly awkward heh, but online I am a completely different person, I guess it is because when communicating through writing on a computer, the whole situation seems less "real" and makes it easier to be myself around someone I barely know.
It is fine that you are still single, I myself was single until the age of 17, in which I was the one who was asked out! I didn't even do anything xb (it was by a new friend I made at the time that I didnt know that well yet). Believe me the shyness linked to dating really wears off the more experience you have, so far I have had 8 exs, and am currently in a loving and happy relationship :) (with one of my ex's actually, decided to give it another shot lol) it just comes naturally. So dont worry about it, when the time is right a relationship will find you, so there is no need to chase after it so much.
(One saying I found to be true, things such as happiness, relationships, or love, all come around when you least expect them).
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Member | FloralDreams America posts 281 10:51 am April 2, 2011
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*hugs*
As many have said, become friends with a girl who shares/could share the same interest. I get that it's hard to make friends, as some have said, it's hard to meet new people for them (and for me too), but online, they act different (same for me too). I'm shy, I literally had no kids my age in my little neighborhood.
In fact, most of the people that live in my neighborhood (again, it's small) were my (older) cousins!
So, I'm not exactly the most outgoing person either.
And, again, as some have said (stressing this point) don't want a girlfriend, want the girl you like/are crushing on to be your girlfriend. You should want to have a realtionship like this with a girl because you actually honest-to-goodness have a crush on them, not just settle for any girl, because that most likely, won't end very well…
(On a random note: And as many others are, I myself am single…and proud of it.)
*hugs*
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Member | zakary posts 513 10:57 pm April 2, 2011
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FloralDreams said:
*hugs*
As many have said, become friends with a girl who shares/could share the same interest. I get that it's hard to make friends, as some have said, it's hard to meet new people for them (and for me too), but online, they act different (same for me too). I'm shy, I literally had no kids my age in my little neighborhood.
In fact, most of the people that live in my neighborhood (again, it's small) were my (older) cousins!
So, I'm not exactly the most outgoing person either.
And, again, as some have said (stressing this point) don't want a girlfriend, want the girl you like/are crushing on to be your girlfriend. You should want to have a realtionship like this with a girl because you actually honest-to-goodness have a crush on them, not just settle for any girl, because that most likely, won't end very well…
(On a random note: And as many others are, I myself am single…and proud of it.)
*hugs*
its hard for me, all i really know is video games, video game programing, computers, nature(somewhat), singing, acting(somewhat). but most ive seen is talk about people that i dont seem to compare to. but i do have a crush but the 3 times i tried one was a rejection another was being called stalker for all of middle school and third being called a creeper. i have a crush now but im afraid to say because of the other three times.
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Member | SirZachary New York, U.S.A. posts 695 11:50 pm April 2, 2011
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Exactly how did you aproach things those three times. I have a pretty clueless friends that does some pretty strange stuff and he ends up in similiar situations. THough in his case it was not a good idea to blatently stare at a girl even though it is easy to see is obvious other people notice.
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Rage when properly focoused can turn a negative into a positive." SirZachary"Rascality is common,intelegence is rare and stupidity is infinent."
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Member | zakary posts 513 7:47 am April 3, 2011
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SirZachary said:
Exactly how did you aproach things those three times. I have a pretty clueless friends that does some pretty strange stuff and he ends up in similiar situations. THough in his case it was not a good idea to blatently stare at a girl even though it is easy to see is obvious other people notice.
well the first time i had no clue what i was doing but i knew this girl a little bit.i got someone to help me . i was to nervous to pass a note so i gave it to the guy who gave it to her. she wrote on it no and then spread around the whole school i was a stalker. the second i got into a dare contest with the girl and she asked who i liked, i didnt anwser really. so she went and said i like her and i shook my head yes. i then balled sortof (was on a bus from field trip) and cried a little they asked if i was sad and i said no i just didnt think youd find out this way but she said she knew for awhile. she felt creeped out but it so i just stop pursuing her (also cause another girl spreaded rumors about me and her dating which we didnt ever do). the third i knew well. she kept on asking if i would date her and i said i dont know(because in all honesty i did not know). so one day i tell her i like her and i would go out with her but she said i was just joking and called me a creeper for saying i liked her. so yeah…
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Member | SirZachary New York, U.S.A. posts 695 1:04 pm April 3, 2011
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zakary said:
SirZachary said:
Exactly how did you aproach things those three times. I have a pretty clueless friends that does some pretty strange stuff and he ends up in similiar situations. THough in his case it was not a good idea to blatently stare at a girl even though it is easy to see is obvious other people notice.
well the first time i had no clue what i was doing but i knew this girl a little bit.i got someone to help me . i was to nervous to pass a note so i gave it to the guy who gave it to her. she wrote on it no and then spread around the whole school i was a stalker. the second i got into a dare contest with the girl and she asked who i liked, i didnt anwser really. so she went and said i like her and i shook my head yes. i then balled sortof (was on a bus from field trip) and cried a little they asked if i was sad and i said no i just didnt think youd find out this way but she said she knew for awhile. she felt creeped out but it so i just stop pursuing her (also cause another girl spreaded rumors about me and her dating which we didnt ever do). the third i knew well. she kept on asking if i would date her and i said i dont know(because in all honesty i did not know). so one day i tell her i like her and i would go out with her but she said i was just joking and called me a creeper for saying i liked her. so yeah…
The third one was your friend? Yeah to be blunt most of those are the fault of the person you asked. Anyway it is better that they did reject you considering how they acted after the fact.
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Rage when properly focoused can turn a negative into a positive." SirZachary"Rascality is common,intelegence is rare and stupidity is infinent."
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Member | FloralDreams America posts 281 1:58 pm April 3, 2011
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zakary said:
FloralDreams said:
*hugs*
As many have said, become friends with a girl who shares/could share the same interest. I get that it's hard to make friends, as some have said, it's hard to meet new people for them (and for me too), but online, they act different (same for me too). I'm shy, I literally had no kids my age in my little neighborhood.
In fact, most of the people that live in my neighborhood (again, it's small) were my (older) cousins!
So, I'm not exactly the most outgoing person either.
And, again, as some have said (stressing this point) don't want a girlfriend, want the girl you like/are crushing on to be your girlfriend. You should want to have a realtionship like this with a girl because you actually honest-to-goodness have a crush on them, not just settle for any girl, because that most likely, won't end very well…
(On a random note: And as many others are, I myself am single…and proud of it.)
*hugs*
its hard for me, all i really know is video games, video game programing, computers, nature(somewhat), singing, acting(somewhat). but most ive seen is talk about people that i dont seem to compare to. but i do have a crush but the 3 times i tried one was a rejection another was being called stalker for all of middle school and third being called a creeper. i have a crush now but im afraid to say because of the other three times.
*hugs* I truly hope that this time turns out well for you, unlike with the last three times.
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