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That's a hard spot to be in, HopefulDreams. You have my sincere sympathies.

I'm sure you've seen a lot of posts on these forums talking about how some really religious people just don't understand that sometimes things might be different from the way they have been taught. It sounds like your dad is that kind of person. I'm sure he means well, and he is probably really concerned for you. The thing is, when it comes to having a conflict with parents, it usually doesn't pay to openly defy them. Really about the only thing you can do is to hold true to what you believe in your heart, but don't argue much with your dad. Sadly, parents often do not respect their childrens' opinions, so your chances of bringing him around to your way of thinking are not high.

This is one of those cases that is similar to when Jesus said "Render unto Caeser those things which are Caeser's, and render unto God those things which are God's". Maybe the best way to handle the situation is just to drop it around him, so that he doesn't feel the need to bother you about it any more. If he insists that you even get rid of anything you have that has pictures of faeries on it, etc., it's probably best to go ahead and do that so he'll feel better and stop bothering you about it. Just remember that although he can make you do things like that, he can't force you to change your beliefs, and so if you have to wait until you don't live under his roof anymore to express your love for faeries then that might just have to be the way it is.

I know it sounds unfair, and it is. If it helps any, know that just about everybody has some kind of disagreement with their parents that they have to wait until they are older to be able to express. It's one of the harder parts of growing up.

I'm sorry you're having to go through this. Good luck with your dad, and hopefully he'll ease up on you.

Athidal said:

That's a hard spot to be in, HopefulDreams. You have my sincere sympathies.

I'm sure you've seen a lot of posts on these forums talking about how some really religious people just don't understand that sometimes things might be different from the way they have been taught. It sounds like your dad is that kind of person. I'm sure he means well, and he is probably really concerned for you. The thing is, when it comes to having a conflict with parents, it usually doesn't pay to openly defy them. Really about the only thing you can do is to hold true to what you believe in your heart, but don't argue much with your dad. Sadly, parents often do not respect their childrens' opinions, so your chances of bringing him around to your way of thinking are not high.

This is one of those cases that is similar to when Jesus said “Render unto Caeser those things which are Caeser's, and render unto God those things which are God's”. Maybe the best way to handle the situation is just to drop it around him, so that he doesn't feel the need to bother you about it any more. If he insists that you even get rid of anything you have that has pictures of faeries on it, etc., it's probably best to go ahead and do that so he'll feel better and stop bothering you about it. Just remember that although he can make you do things like that, he can't force you to change your beliefs, and so if you have to wait until you don't live under his roof anymore to express your love for faeries then that might just have to be the way it is.

I know it sounds unfair, and it is. If it helps any, know that just about everybody has some kind of disagreement with their parents that they have to wait until they are older to be able to express. It's one of the harder parts of growing up.

I'm sorry you're having to go through this. Good luck with your dad, and hopefully he'll ease up on you.

Thank you so much…And part of me wants to go with this plan….but I can't wait that long, I'd burst before that. So, I have decided to go out into the woods begining spring, and put my offerings there, it just might work but he also might find out….One thing is sure, I can't wait utill I'm "out of his roof", He just will have to accept it and I won't talk to him about it.

I never talked about it to him, not at all. I only spoke of the Fae around my true friends, and ones that won't put me down. My friend of the forum, this is my ONLY place to talk about the fae…

mortals dont know everthything. the old man created other beings too says so in the bible., not to be rude. thats harsh saying that a child i knpw it hurt whrn my aunt not really my aunt told me that.

HopefulDreams said:

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Thank you so much…And part of me wants to go with this plan….but I can't wait that long, I'd burst before that. So, I have decided to go out into the woods begining spring, and put my offerings there, it just might work but he also might find out….One thing is sure, I can't wait utill I'm “out of his roof”, He just will have to accept it and I won't talk to him about it.

I never talked about it to him, not at all. I only spoke of the Fae around my true friends, and ones that won't put me down. My friend of the forum, this is my ONLY place to talk about the fae…

I do understand. It's really hard to hide something that is important to you when you also want to be respectful to your parents and do what they say. And it really can seem like forever before you can move out to do your own thing. I've been there! Fortunately I was able to escape away to college, which is a great and fairly safe way to get out on your own if you can. I don't know your dad, maybe he is the kind of person who might actually listen to you if you can find a way to show him that fae aren't demons. But if he felt the need to have a talk with you about faeries even though you've never talked to him about it, then he must have some way of finding out what you have been doing. So I would advise being super careful about what you do. Remember, he's doing what he does because he cares about you. And the fae know what is in your heart even if you don't say it out loud. If you can find it in your heart to be patient, you'll find it's really worth it because then you can keep your beliefs as well as good relations with your parents. The kid/teenage years only last for a while even though it seems like forever, but family fights can inflict wounds that last for years and years and years. I don't mean to be all depressing at you or anything, I'm just trying to share the voice of experience.

Again, best of luck!

HopefulDreams said:

Okay, last night my dad gave me a “talk” (even if you could really call it that). He said the bible said that The Devil and his many Demons can transform intio small beings aka, FAIRIES, and he wants me to put the stuff away and forget about it.He also said that I could be attracting something dangerous, which I admit is true.

I don't wanna put fae away forever but I don't wanna disrespect him…WHAT DO I DO!?

(this is a religious post so do not be offended plz)

I dont' agree with your father.    While it is true that Satan and his demons can imitate just about anything,…  it doesnt mean that what they are imitating does not exist.     You can always tell if something is evil or not by looking directly in the eyes of that Being. 

I am a Christian and actually PRAYED that God would let me meet a "Nature Guardian"– and I left the timing up to God for that.   One month later- at a time I least expected it – but needed it the most,  my eyes were open to see a faery Being resting in my hair- looking at me directly.        You can tell your father this- her eyes were full of Christ's light-  she did not know I was able to temporarily see her- and her eyes were full of empathy and love–    

No demon or devil could imitate THAT!!

Your father is concerned- but he is making the mistake thousands of humans make–  Throwing it all away  –just because evil will imitate some of these Beings.        

Don't forget- Satan and demons can also imitate an Angel of Light- but that does not mean that angels don't exist either!

Lisa A.- Grey Eyes said:

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I dont' agree with your father.    While it is true that Satan and his demons can imitate just about anything,…  it doesnt mean that what they are imitating does not exist.     You can always tell if something is evil or not by looking directly in the eyes of that Being. 

I am a Christian and actually PRAYED that God would let me meet a “Nature Guardian”– and I left the timing up to God for that.   One month later- at a time I least expected it – but needed it the most,  my eyes were open to see a faery Being resting in my hair- looking at me directly.        You can tell your father this- her eyes were full of Christ's light-  she did not know I was able to temporarily see her- and her eyes were full of empathy and love–    

No demon or devil could imitate THAT!!

Your father is concerned- but he is making the mistake thousands of humans make–  Throwing it all away  –just because evil will imitate some of these Beings.        

Don't forget- Satan and demons can also imitate an Angel of Light- but that does not mean that angels don't exist either!

This is so true! For your father to ask you to stay away from faeries is like asking you to stay away from angels, or cats or pizza, even himself… demons can imitate those as well, as odd as that sounds. This all makes my head spin and I'm so sorry you're going through this :( I don't advocate lying or hiding, but no one has the right to tell you what you are or are not allowed to believe. While you live with and depend on your parents, though, it is best to comply with their wishes if you want a comfortable relationship.

How did he find out about your belief? What did you do to upset him?

CloverDew said:

Ooooooh, that is horrible. =(

Keep the fae in your heart and you they shall always be with you! <3

You should tell your dad that you know how to protect yourself and you know what you are getting yourself into when “otherworldly” things are involved. -nods-

i really should….I just printed out the protection symbol….the one with the swans…yeah, so far I've had to put it away, but I'm gonna make a "outdoor friendly" house (aka, a milk contaner, the plastic ones, lol)

I'm gonna put the other protection symbol (gonna draw it) on my hands, and on a piece of paper….to put my dad @ ease.

I WILL lay back on it, I've never really mentioned it to him, not untill recent times….

thx for helping :D

hey.. your father may have an opinion but heres something. what if you wait untill they go to bed then put the stuff out. then wake up early and put it way. but if your father doesn't want you to tell him that the fae are real and on these forums is a bible verse about the fae. also tell him that youve takin huge precotions against this. i mean i know what your situation is. ive delt with it and ive gotten around it with one of these ways. my biggest excuse i can use is freddom of speech and freedom to express your self. its a free country.  hope i help

what is ur decsion?

HopefulDreams said:

Okay, last night my dad gave me a “talk” (even if you could really call it that). He said the bible said that The Devil and his many Demons can transform intio small beings aka, FAIRIES, and he wants me to put the stuff away and forget about it.He also said that I could be attracting something dangerous, which I admit is true.

I don't wanna put fae away forever but I don't wanna disrespect him…WHAT DO I DO!?

(this is a religious post so do not be offended plz)

Thats what my dad said too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! he doesnt know i was born one tho a demon came into my room when iwas a baby and tried to kill me i still dont know why tho!